Love Eternally (The Perks of Using White Flower Lesson#3)

Lesson #3 On Love

My Dearly Beloved,

Yes, I am referring to you my past self.  You know it's not uncommon for us to say this to ourselves, after all that is the literal meaning of our surname (pun intended.)  But seriously, we have always told our friends all this time that no one will love you more than your self. That still holds true even now after 23 years.  It is one of the best piece of advice we have ever given and I still continue to say it even now.  But here is one more thing you would need to emulate, always remember that everyone needs to receive love from someone else. There is no exception to this.  It's what keeps love from going on like a flame in candle being passed  from one heart to another.

But my letter to you today is not meant for you to receive love, you still have it (lots of it) in you all this time.  It is a reminder for you to give love away in order for it to flourish.  You would need to show it and allow others to learn from your actions.  Don't keep love static and dormant, keeping love is like holding water with an open palm, it can never be contained.  But some people's greatest fear is that if they give out love they would not get love in return.  Love always comes full circle, it eventually would come back to the person who gives love - in one form or the other.  So why choose fear, if you can choose to love?

And you give love to three different group of people in the world:

1. Those who love you - your wife, your child, your family and your friends.  Yes, it is easy to love those who love you.  As I have mentioned to you a while ago everyone needs to be loved, including you.  So why not start with those who can give it back to you? 
2. Those who do not receive love - yes, the unloved.  Those who society rejects in physical appearance, social status, sexual preference, religious beliefs or lack of it.  Those who were abandoned by their family and friends.  Those who have lost everything.  They need to receive love most of all.  So be different, be the change you need to be and give them the love and attention they deserve.
3. Those who can't give out love - these are the unlovable.  Those who choose not to love even though they are loved by others.  Those who have far too much loved themselves that they forget to give love to others or what is called selfish love.  Those who have so much hate in their heart that they have chosen not to love.  Yes, even they need to be loved.  As I have said love given is never unnoticed.  The universe will return it to you not in the way you expect it to be but how you need it to be. 

Does these sound familiar to you?  Yes, these are the universal truth.  It transcends religion it is the secret of life itself.   So my urgent plea for you is not to fall into the 3rd category.  Do not harden your heart, no matter how life's events has not been according to plan.  Things will get better in time, just be patient and see things unfold as you start to plant the seeds for a fruitful and meaningful life.

Here is one more thing that I would like to impart to you, Fall in Love Everyday.  Never ever wane in your love, that is the secret for a successful relationship.  Do you remember the first time you realized you love your then girlfriend/now your wife? The first time you saw your daughter after she was born?  That is the feeling that you need to have everyday.  Keep this both in your mind and in your heart.

And do not forget that you are loved.

Take it from an old man who has his heart filled with loved and continuously gives out love.

And by the way since it is already February (which have always been one of the happiest months for us) I greet you a Happy Valentine's Day.

Bonus soundtrack while reading this blog post:  Here is Ellie Goulding's How Long Will I Love You from the movie About Time.

Ellie Goulding 'How Long Will I Love You' from Jake Scott Cinematographer on Vimeo.